Monday, October 11, 2010

I Really Hate Cancer!

A few years ago, friends from DC moved out to Arkansas so that he could go to law school.  Maybe a year into that move, he found out that he had a brain tumor.  She was lucky enough to have a surprisingly understanding job that let her up and move with him to Houston to have surgery and treatment.  Months later they moved back to Arkansas to finish treatments.  He even eventually went back to law school part time.  Though later quit due to lack of stamina and the realization that he no longer had the passion for it.  Things were up and down but mostly up.  Ish.  Until they were way down.  And about three weeks ago, he was moved into a Hospice center.  The end was near. 

My girlfriends and I were heartbroken to know that our dear, sweet friend would lose her husband before they grew old together.  Thirty is just too young to die.  We prayed and begged God to let him live just a few more weeks.  A miracle. 

But God does things in His own timing.  Sucky as it may seem.  Last night, surround by his amazing wife and lots of family and friends, he passed on from this life to the next adventure.  Just four weeks shy of meeting his baby girl.  Their first child.

If you believe, please say a little prayer for my sweet friend who became a widow last night and will become a mother next month.  If you are not a believer, just a positive thought would equally be appreciated. 

Another dear family friend is ironically having surgery at this very moment on a similar brain tumor.  She was terrified and nervous. She has had a long and horrible battle.  This is a last hope to give her another half a year. 

What are the odds?  I have been a bucket of tears since last night!  It drives me nuts that stuff like this will just never make sense.

I really hate cancer!

30 comments:

Telia said...

PPC, I'm praying for your friend. God is the only one who can heal, and I know he will. We don't understand it sometimes but he has a plan, a perfect plan.

Though this is hard to read thank you for sharing. It reminds me to be thankful for what I have and understand that things could always be worse.

Telia, NewlyWedWifeLife

Lauren (Healthy Delicious) said...

Well that made me cry. Definitely sending prayers their way. :(

Mona said...

I'm sorry for your loss. Sending up prayers.

Glitterista said...

That is just so so sad. I am so sorry for your loss and the very difficult position your friend is in while waiting for her precious baby girl to arrive. Thoughts and prayers to everyone, including your friend in surgery now.

kLl said...

I am so sorry friend. I will definitely say a prayer for you and your friend and family.

Love Being a Nonny said...

I hate it too. I did just pray though and will continue to do so for your sweet friend and her precious unborn child. (And your other friend too).

mFw said...

So sad for your friend! Everything is in God's hands, as hard as it may be!

Torch Lake Prep said...

Most definitely praying for your friend and her baby. Surround her with love and patience.

BAH said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I will keep your friend in my prayers.

ty said...

Prayers are being sent that way. That's just awful. I'm wondering if it was someone in school a year before me ... I'm a 2L at the Univ. of Arkansas Law School right now.

I'm so, so sorry for your friend.

Susan said...

Oh my gosh. When things like this happen I try really hard to make sense of it all. I know that God had his own plan for this man's life, but how does that translate for his widow and soon to be baby? I can't make sense of it. I have to continually remind myself that our lives are not our own, they belong to Him.
God bless your friend and best wishes to her. I think it will be a bittersweet moment when her baby is born.

Gracie Beth said...

Goodness, I am so sorry. I am praying. My friend died in high school of malignant melanoma at the age of 17 cancer BLOWS!

flip flops and pearls said...

Oh my....I am in tears. This just breaks my heart. I am so sorry for his wife, for & his family & friends. I will keep you all as well as the other who is in surgery all in my prayers. HIS LOVE & MINE! Daphne xoox

caknitter said...

I don't know how I stumbled upon your blog, but I'm glad I did. I'm so sorry for your friends going through these trying times. I ask every day why things happen the way they do. Is there a lesson to be learned from it? Probably, but not sure what it is and it's such a hard way to learn it. My prayers and good thoughts are with you and your friends. :-)

Momma said...

Praying with tears in my eyes. My grandpa died of a brain tumor and I have an adoption friend who is also dying of a brain tumor. :( Hate hate hate cancer.

Ms. Bright said...

Just said a prayer for her. I can't even believe this. We got similar news today about 2 sets of friends. I want cancer to go to hell. I lost my MIL and gram just this past year to it. I live terrified of it.

God is good and gets us through even the ugliest of circumstances, though.

Pretty Personal Gifts said...

Heartbreaking. I can't imagine what she is going through. Sending prayers and good thoughts for your friends.

Princess Freckles said...

I am praying for both your friends. Tears just came to my eyes reading this post. I am so sorry that your girlfriend is going to be starting the journey of motherhood (so joyful) just weeks after losing her husband. I cannot imagine how she feels right now, but I do know that the power of God's love, often shown to us through great friends like you are to her, can bring great comfort.

Just Ask Beth said...

PPC, how terribly heartbreaking! I pray that his wife will have strength and his spirit will shine through his sweet little girl..

REBrown said...

I had a really close young friend pass away from cancer yesterday...I definitely feel you on this.

REBrown
rekdbrown.blogspot.com

Preppy Mama said...

Oh I am so sorry. I am praying for your friend. It is just devastating. I hate cancer too, we just recently found out my sister's MIL has breast cancer and starts chemo this week. Sending you hugs.

Katiellirb said...

Your friends are definitely in my prayers. I can only hope there is a plan for all this suffering and she finds new life in her baby.

Maureen said...

Oh, how I will pray for them both.

I lost one of my bf's this year to brain cancer. It was horrible.

Sending love and light and hope.

Dr. Blondie said...

So, so sorry. Heartbreaking stories! Your friend is in my prayers. May she know God's grace during tough times like this.

Deviled Megs said...

Heartbreaking. Saying a prayer for your friend that God gives her all the strength she needs right now for her and the baby.

Ruth said...

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. All of you are in my prayers

The Southern Lady said...

I don't think there is a person out there who hasn't been personally moved, burdened, or saddened by cancer. My prayers are with your friends and their families, that sweet unborn little girl, and you, that your hearts may be lightened and your Faith never shaken.

Thinking of you and your friends,

Elizabeth

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

Aw man :( I know I am just discovering your blog, but I will def say a prayer for those affected . Such a sad story. At least he got to meet his daughter. My thoughts are def wit them.

Ryan Kay said...

I'm sending you prayers. I hate cancer too. It's horrible and I hate that for your friends and family. :(

Pammy said...

How sad! This brought tears to my eyes. I lost a friend to melanoma (that spread to her brain) a few years ago. It is so hard to lose someone and especially when they are in physical pain. I said a prayer for your friend and am sending warm thoughts your way.

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