Update

Y'all give great advice.  An update to this post below...

I decided to not get in the mix.  Friend is my close friend and everyone else is not significantly connected to me personally.  I am going to let Friend work those relationships out on her own accord.  At one point when I spoke to Friend last night, I asked her if she wanted me to be a sounding board or wanted me to offer advice.  She said she didn't know.  So I said that I would just listen.  If she wants my advice, she will have to request it.  After sleeping on it all and reading your great sage advice, I am standing by that statement to her.  She needs someone to listen to her and love her without judgement and comment.  And I am perfectly understanding of that need right now.  So that's what I will do.  Pray she works through her darkness and offer a shoulder to cry on.  I know what it's like to grieve.  It hits us all in such varied ways.  She has to get though those feelings on her own accord.  I plan to provide copious amounts or brownies though.  As y'all know, they are my go-to sad day band-aid.