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Dear Paula,

Stop the tears.  Just stop them.

You can sob all you want at home.  In private.  I mean, I get it.  My emotions fall out of my eyeballs, too.  So cry your little heart out.  But do it behind closed doors.

In public, you need to start fighting.

Food Network, Smithfield, Walmart and now Target have all dropped you.  You need to get a new PR team and get a grip on this thing, honey.

Give up on the ham people.  Your collaboration with them and the candle people actually made me stop watching your show.  Like Lilly Pulitzer and LeSportSac.  It just seemed like you said yes to everything that came along.  Consider this a blessing.  Buy ham and cook ham, don't hock (I seriously crack myself up) ham.  Done.

And let go of Food Network.  They are tired anyway.  All they show at night, the only time I sit down to watch TV, are competition shows.  Yawn.  Flip the channel.  There are a million cable networks that also have cooking programs.  You'll find a new network and life will go on.  Done.

Walmart is the dregs of the Earth.  They have no ground to stand on and you should look into legal action there.

But Target, that's the one I recommend you start fighting back for.

As with Walmart, they sell rap CDs that include the n word.  They sell them in the dang stores.  They promote artists and designers who also use that word.  As in, present tense.  Not 30 or 50 years ago.  Today.

If you feel the need to explain yourself again, make it just a one shot deal.  Schedule a sit down with Oprah.  Anderson Cooper can be your plan B.  But really, for so many reasons, it needs to be Momma O.  Make sure you reference her interview with Jay Z in regards to use of the n word.

But that's it.  Stop talking about it.  And good gravy, don't give any more interviews to Matt Lauer.  Mostly because I just think he's super shady.

Instead of more apologies, start demanding your good name be returned to you.

Paula, while I personally lost some that loving feeling for you the more you seeped into every mass marketing opportunity, I think you are a really good woman who was very brave and honest in your admission.  Very few people would ever be so bold and candid.  You did a good thing.  I really believe that.  You opened the door to a much needed discussion.

Our nation needs a vocabulary reform.  Use this moment as your launching pad to support such a movement.

Don't let people turn you into the wicked witch, Paula.  You've apologized.  You've explained.  And now you just need to move on.

This, of all weeks, is about taking back what is rightfully yours.  Your good name and reputation...those are yours.  Be an example to all of your fans.  Fight!

And seriously...you need a better PR team...pronto.

Butter makes it better,
KK