Friday, January 24, 2014

I'm Tired Of Dating




Y'all...I am so tired of dating.  And trying to date.

It's exhausting.  Sometimes it's fun.  Sometimes it's not.  And lately, it's just been weird.

So I'm on a popular dating website.  Again.  But my luck has not been great.

But I signed up for three months and made myself promise to really give it and the options presented to me a fair shake.  And I totally have.  I mean, if there is even a remote possibility of a connection, I have sent them the first communication.  I've been rather proud of myself in that regard.

Things started out really promising.  The first two weeks were great.  But then things sort of fizzled.  And then...well then they just got weird.  {I wish so badly I could show you photos but I am sure that is breaking a million morality rules so I can't post them.  Y'all will just have to settle for taking my word for things.}

Despite setting specific age and location ranges, I keep getting matched with men who live many states away and are over the age of 60.  And I mean, I am trying to be open.  But I'm not that open.  I want kids, not grandkids.  The pickin's, it seems, are mighty slim around these parts!

I think I am going to break this post up into a two parts as to not make it a novel so let me today just tell you about my surprise last night....

So the photo above is my profile photo.  I list my passions as volunteering and gardening.  I note that I like dogs, cooking, wearing pearls and am a positive person.  It's all very normal stuff.  So last night, I get the following note from a guy with whom I initiated the first round of communication {remember that I initiate communication with maybe 25% of the matches- that's a huge percentage- I'm really trying here}.

Hi, and thank you for your interest in my profile. Unfortunately after reading your profile I just don't think we have enough in common- without sounding like a jerk, many of your interests are much the same as my ex-wife, and I ignored these differences in our personalities and tried to overcome them for a decade until she called it quits and pretty much destroyed my life, which I am trying to slowly re-build.

Here's the thing...he could have just been a normal person and not replied or blocked me.  That's what I do all the time.  Sometimes even after sending a first communication, I think better and then hide them.  But instead, he sent me this note.  Fan-freakin-tastic.  I just blocked him and moved on but seriously...what the what is that about?!

So that's what I'm dealing with.

It makes it harder and harder to keep trying and to keep putting myself out there when all I get is a computer screen full crazies.  I don't want to give up.  But honestly, it's exhausting sometimes!

Next week you get to learn about Catman II and Mr. Commune and High Maintenance Sports Guy.  Good times.  Stay tuned!



15 comments:

Wendy said...

I am so sorry you are having such weird experiences with dating and online sites. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way that a normal nice guy will cross paths with you.

MCW said...

OMG! He wrote that? That man is clearly not over his ex! I guess nothing surprises me. Keep on going!!!! Dot get frustrated, just think of it as one more way...

Flo said...

This post makes me think of a comment a friend made years ago--"Men who have ended a relationship in the last two years should have to wear a special sign alerting women to just how screwed up they are. Women move on, but guys--they just dwell on past relationships".

Sarah said...

Girl, that is one crazy response! I did online dating for about a year and had a few responses similar to the one you mentioned. BE THANKFUL he let you know how crazy he is upfront! Sounds like he needs to do a little more therapy than dating right now, lol!

The Preppy Sisters said...

Aww I'm so sorry you have had all that trouble with dating. I can't believe he wrote that. Just keep on going, stay strong!

Julie,
http://thepreppysisters.blogspot.com

Jenni said...

I've been off and on dating sites for the better part of 10 years. Most of the time I just get absolutely no communication from any guys - whether I start the conversation or not. So, I'm done. As soon as my subscription expired, I'm done with online dating for good.

Alexandra Aimee said...

Dating IS exhausting, BUT I met my husband online and he's normal! Well, sort of, lol! There is hope.

-- Alex at Brainy Girls Beauty

CT Cupcake said...

I am also tired of dating! Responses such as that guy's are why I can't bring myself to try online dating again-I don't need the crazy cluttering up my inbox.

erin said...

Girl, hang in there! I did the online dating thing on and off for what seemed like a lifetime. I met a couple of really nice guys along with a ton of jerks. My current boyfriend and I met on match.com over a year ago and we could not be happier and I think he is the one. Just remember you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get a prince and it is worth the wait, the right one will come along I promise you that. Dating is not for the weak, stay strong.

Casey said...

I gave up on online dating YEARS ago when I got matched (right out of the gate) with a Satanist, because I put down I was open to any religion and went to church regularly. Uh huh. It's all scams now anyways from what I hear. And you might want to rethink your profile pic.

City Girl turned Country Mommy said...

Hey girl I am thinking about trying to blog again and found this! Dating sucks but the more stories you have the more you know who and what you want! Here is a story with a positive spin:
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/24544834/good-samaritan-meets-victim-he-helped-after-car-accident

Her Preppiness said...

You will be fine! Just take a deep breath

lnipaver said...

KK,

have you tried the app Tinder? I know 2 people that have met legit contenders, one is still dating the guy. I had heard about it on a radio show I listen to and told them about it. You might want to check it out.

Ruth said...

I am sick of dating too. I have never gotten the hang of it. I am proud of you for joining the site and trying it totally scares me. I have begun to think I am just not meant to have someone in my life.

linda said...

You are an amazing person- the right guy will come along for you....
-Linda,ny

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